Red flags, whew! We know them but yet, we still ignore them. Why is that?! Well, studies show (aka from working with my clients and from my own experience) that:

1. We live in denial
2. The red flags seem minor
3. We start to second guess our intuition
4. We see it as a mistake and give another chance
5. We think a person can change, regardless of the red flag
6. We allow the potential of a person to outweigh reality and red flags
7. We consider it as a “one time thing” and believe (or hope) it won’t happen again
8. A relationship issue that looks like a red flag to one person may be different to another individual

Now this email isn’t to make you feel bad and come for you, but yes, I’m in your business. Because understanding why we choose to ignore red flags can be helpful in moving forward and breaking cycles of negative dating/relationship patterns.

Here are a few examples of red flags:

1. Lies
2. Inconsistent behavior
3. Anger issues
4. Controlling behavior
5. Lack of trust
6. Inability to resolve conflict
7. Abuse of any kind
8. They disrespect you during argument
9. They cheated on their last partner with you
10. They’re never wrong – you’re always the problem
11. They refuse to make your relationship public

The red flags that you ignore, will likely be the reasons why the relationship ends or is full of conflict due to foundational issues (the red flags that were ignored). Learning how to spot red flags can help you avoid a heartbreaking or dysfunctional relationship in the future.

So ask yourself, what are you ignoring and denying?